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“Paddle, paddle, paddle” the instructor yelled … “stand up!”
Catching my breath, one wobbly right leg somehow got underneath me. Then, I attempted to get the left to do the same.
Wobble, boom, splash. Down I go. Nope, not standing up on this wave!
Recently, for my birthday, I took a surf lesson with my wife. While this was mostly for fun, it was also to do something I’ve wanted to do my entire life. You see, even growing up in a surf town, I was intimidated to try surfing. So, fast forward 40 years later, and I did.
It taught me a lot more than I expected.
On the day of the lesson, the waves looked bigger, the board seemed heavier, and the rental wetsuit felt like I was wearing an elephant. None of that was true, but my mind didn’t care, it was convinced of these “facts”. With my heart pounding, my brain played a movie of the board knocking me out and me being pulled...
Parents, are you noticing this with your kids right now?
Almost out of nowhere there are tears…
or maybe more anger than expected…
All over the world, kids are struggling.
Even the kids who didn’t show struggles before – are having a hard time.
Teachers and Parents are doing their absolute best to manage through an incredibly challenging time now, and we can miss that our kids may need an extra boost.
So, what’s really going on here?
Let’s look at what is happening in the brain for our kids, and briefly talk about approaches to address this.
Okay, so in our brains, all senses come in through the same “clearing house”. Whatever you see, feel, touch or smell is routed through the same place.
There’s a “decision maker” there that says something like “this is normal, route it to the problem solving and creativity place” or “...
Cough Cough Cough!
Does your home sound like this right now?
It’s a beautiful time of year - and… the change of seasons results in all sorts of airborne pollen being released. While this is great for the plant world, it can be really tough on some of us humans.
So what’s going on in our kiddos bodies right now and how is it triggered?
“The biggest spring allergy trigger is pollen. Trees, grasses, and weeds release these tiny grains into the air to fertilize other plants. When they get into the nose of someone who’s allergic, they send the body's defenses haywire.” - Nayana Ambardekar, MD (WebMD)
The go-to for many is their favorite decongestant or antihistamine. Others prefer nasal sprays and eye drops.And still others turn to natural remedies like nasal irrigation, butterbur, quercetin and stinging...
“Nearly all the best things that came to me in life have been unexpected, unplanned by me.” - Carl Sandburg
The trash dump is not what most of us would describe as the ideal work environment, or place to visit. On the morning I went it was cold, wet, and as always, stinky! Heavy equipment was going in every which direction and confused newbies like me were mixed in with the regulars.
Daily, the staff at the dump deals with hazardous waste, awful smells, dangerous conditions and cranky people. Their salaries are certainly not in the top 1%. Most of them are on their feet all day. I would bet many, like me, ask the same questions that the last 100 customers also asked. Even if there’s a sign, we may miss it, be confused, or just want confirmation.
To my great surprise, I found myself motivated and upbeat after my trip to the dump. Why? Because they clearly know how to meet people where they are that, be of service,...
Last night I posted this on Facebook, and it got me thinking.
“I’m incredibly thankful for those who taught me to play trumpet decades ago, and the many I got to play with. There's nothing like performing with others!”
What was it about performing with others that was so special, and why does that carry over to the rest of our lives so powerfully?
Here are four ways music was amazing for me in my youth:
As parents, we want the best for our kids. We want them to learn skills that help their lives and future careers, and engage them where they are at.
However, the reality is that we often find ourselves in survival mode - extended, overwhelmed and anxious. In 2020, that certainly has been more difficult with the pandemic, social unrest, election year, and variety of school changes.
Teaching our kids advanced coping skills is a new “must have”, as there will certainly be many things for them to handle now, and in their future. Building their ability to be resilient, no matter the situation, will increase their success and enjoyment of their lives.
In the past, methods for this have included months of counseling, medications, self-help books, diet changes and camp programs. While useful approaches for some, there’s actually an easy (and free) method you can start to do now. It’s only a few...
As parents, just managing our own schedules can be a challenge.
With school from home, there’s the added layer of making sure our kids are “in” class and prepared for their days. Balancing all of this in our minds can be maddening, so we wanted to offer a strategy to help.
Imagine if your kiddos could create and manage their own schedules? Would that feel less stressful to you (one less thing to juggle)? Do you think that would teach them some valuable life skills?
To help get you there, parent friends, we create a few easy tools to help you out.
We’ll walk you through three practical steps you can use right now - how to teach your kids about their schedule, using a template you can fill out online (or print out), and 20 ideas for awesome breaks from online learning.
When explaining scheduling to your child, make...
Does the thought of balancing school from home and work from home make you anxious and seem like a disaster?
Did your kids do something that you never expected, and you aren’t sure how to handle it, or who to turn to?
If any of the above are true, you aren’t alone, and this simple process can help you out, right now.
For a moment, think about who your “parenting heroes” are. These can be real people - grandparents, your parents, and others you think would be great parents. They can also be made-up people - some movie characters, even what you imagine an animal (like an owl) to be as a parent - whatever works for you.
Stay with us here. It may seem silly but it’s rooted in brain science. Also remember, you probably already watch 2-3 hours of fantasy TV daily, that isn’t helping you out that much. So, use that part of your imagination to support yourself a bit here.
If your Facebook and Instagram feeds are like mine, they are full of people complaining about school from home. They are upset about having to work from home, and school from home. Some are worried about balancing their work, and maintaining their sanity.
Clearly these posts are from those who are overwhelmed and struggling.
Certainly, I get being stressed and overwhelmed. As a father of two kids who struggle, as the primary wage earner, caregiver, and accountable for many other’s careers, I get that stress. There’s more to do, we have to get very creative, resourceful, and somehow keep our cool. The daily balancing act of school, work, doctor appointments, staying healthy, and just being a family is more challenging right now.
However, at the same time, many of us are incredibly fortunate. We have plenty of food, shelter and clothing. We have dozens of entertainment options. Our families are generally healthy. We have some...
Looking out at my window yesterday, I noticed a few leaves already falling.
Whoa. In some ways, it’s been a slow summer, and in some ways, a very quick one.
Yes, it’s certainly still summer right now, but there are some early achiever leaves falling already.
As one of the big maple leaves fell, it struck me - what perspective would that leaf have?
Would it be sad that summer was over?
Would it be scared to leave its friends?
Would it be okay at peace with it’s passing?
Would it enjoy the ride it had been admiring for weeks?
Let’s stay with our leaf’s story here for just a bit. Consider how a different audiences would view this leaf falling:
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